Unlock Your Inner Badass: Marta Czajkowska on Courageous Living
In this episode of Your Ultimate Life, Kellan Fluckiger welcomes life coach and adventurer Marta Czajkowska to discuss how connecting with nature can lead to profound personal growth. With 30 years of experience in adventure sports, Marta shares her journey of using rock climbing to help clients uncover hidden strengths, embrace desires, and step outside their comfort zones.
Key Takeaways:
- Embrace Courage and Desire: Marta emphasizes the importance of listening to your desires and making bold, aligned choices to create a purposeful life.
- Nature as a Conduit for Growth: Adventure sports like rock climbing help uncover hidden potential and redefine personal boundaries.
- Step Into Your Power: Often, our true capabilities are revealed only when we push past perceived limits.
- Reconnect with Purpose: Trusting your intuition and stepping out of societal expectations are key to living your ultimate life.
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00:00 - None
00:09 - Creating Your Ultimate Life
07:04 - Finding Purpose Through Adventure
14:10 - Finding Purpose and Courageous Choices
22:32 - The Courage to Pursue Dreams
28:39 - Embracing Desire and Uncertainty
32:50 - A Journey of Intimacy with Nature
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Kellen
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Kellen
Hello, and welcome to this episode of your ultimate life podcast that's dedicated to helping you create a life of purpose, prosperity, and joy.
Kellen
And do that by serving with the gifts that you have, your life experience, and the skills you've developed.
Kellen
Today, I'm excited to have a special guest, Marta Tchaikovska.
Kellen
And I had to ask her how to say that, like Fluker.
Kellen
You know, when you have a name like mine, while you pay attention to that sort of stuff.
Kellen
Welcome to the show, Marta.
Marta
Yay.
Guest
Great to be here.
Guest
And well done on that last name.
Guest
That was a plus.
Kellen
Well, you know, I.
Kellen
People do that to me all the time, and I've been spelling it my whole life, as you have.
Kellen
So rather than give some kind of an introduction, I don't usually do that.
Kellen
What I'd like to start with is I'm going to ask you a question, and I just like you to answer it honestly and not try to be modest or anything.
Kellen
Tell me how Martha adds good to the world.
Guest
Thank you.
Guest
Yeah.
Guest
I have spent my whole life in deep connection with nature, and not just nature, but in, you know, adventure sports.
Marta
And tops of mountains and sides of mountains.
Guest
It's been.
Guest
It's been almost 30 years of me doing this, and I have so much intimacy with this that when I work, when I just am in the world, not even work in the world, when.
Marta
I am in the world, I get.
Guest
To be a conduit of that for the people who are interested in having a experience in nature and for those who might not even know that there might be some value there for them.
Guest
So, you know, I live and live and breathe rock climbing and adventure, and that's where I.
Guest
I'm a life coach.
Marta
That's where I take my clients.
Marta
And on the journey to the mountain.
Guest
A lot of great value gets created for them.
Guest
A lot of transformation gets created, and in turn, that serves the world even more powerfully.
Kellen
So when transformation happens, you know, we.
Kellen
That's life coach speak and that sort of stuff, and that's fine.
Kellen
What does that happen?
Kellen
So we're.
Kellen
We're driving or we're hiking or we're walking toward a mountain or a place that we're going to go in nature and have an experience.
Kellen
And if you're a conduit, I have a.
Kellen
I Love that word.
Kellen
I say, a beacon of light, vessel of love and conduit of power is a phrase that I use a lot.
Kellen
When you said conduit, I'm thinking, okay, so you step out of the car and into nature and all of a sudden you glow because there's a conduit of something.
Kellen
But anyway, this transformation that happens on the way there, tell me a little more about that.
Kellen
Transformed from what to what?
Kellen
Like what is that?
Guest
Yeah, I think the best way to talk about it is on examples.
Guest
Just giving some examples.
Guest
So a client, right?
Guest
We're in, I'm with a client on a training expedition for this bigger goal.
Marta
That they have later.
Marta
And as we are planning, as we're.
Guest
Not yet in nature, but as we're planning our expedition, our day, the next day, I say, oh, we're gonna have.
Marta
To be there for around 10 hours.
Guest
And my client goes, but I've never.
Marta
Been out in nature for more than five hours.
Marta
It's impossible for me to be out there for 10 hours.
Guest
Right.
Guest
And so things like that in the work that I do get illuminated, right?
Marta
So sure enough, next day we go.
Guest
Out there and right around the five hour mark, this person starts having a.
Marta
Transformation of what their capacity is.
Marta
They thought they can only do five hours and now it's been six, seven, eight hours.
Guest
That.
Marta
Capacity that they just found out.
Guest
About themselves, they'll be able to remember that and then some other situation with.
Marta
Their children, with their spouse, at their.
Guest
Work, they're going to be able to apply that.
Marta
Oh, I can do so much more.
Guest
Than I thought I did.
Guest
Because right on that mountain, it was.
Marta
In my body that I felt that.
Guest
It was okay and I did it.
Kellen
It's a fabulous example.
Kellen
So it's coming up against some perceived barrier, finding out additional capacity, strength, tools, understanding that you had or sort of had or was camouflaged or covered is revealed or brought into to place and that's transferable to other situations.
Guest
Well, so often, yeah.
Marta
And so often we don't even know we have them.
Marta
She didn't ever, he didn't ever think that five hours is the hard boundary.
Marta
That was just unconscious belief they had about themselves.
Guest
Right.
Guest
So to catch someone, to be there with someone when that, when that gets.
Marta
Touched.
Guest
Is an incredible moment that, you know, I think I can change the world moment by moment.
Kellen
Yeah, you do.
Guest
Yeah, you do.
Kellen
I mean, change, change isn't usually, in fact, very seldom is.
Kellen
You know, in, in large groups, it's usually in smaller groups, it can happen larger.
Kellen
So, so that's a fabulous Example, how did you, how did you decide?
Kellen
Like you said, you've been doing this sports stuff for 30 years and maybe longer in terms of learning and everything else.
Kellen
So I don't, I don't know.
Kellen
Did you start out with the idea that it was going to be some kind of a tool you used to transform others and be coaching, or was it just because you like sports and rocks and nature and that kind of stuff?
Guest
Yeah, no, I mean, you know, as a, starting from the beginning, As a anxious 15 year old, my parents got.
Marta
A divorce, my, my world fell apart.
Guest
And climbing came into my life.
Marta
So it was basically like drugs or climbing.
Kellen
Right, right, right.
Marta
One of those sort of souls decisions.
Guest
That we sometimes are shown.
Guest
And so I went with climbing and that shaped, you know, my life hugely.
Guest
I grew up in communist Poland and climbing got me out of there.
Guest
I followed my passion for climbing all.
Marta
Over the world mostly to run away.
Guest
From at that time, what I thought.
Marta
Was running away from the life that was there for me.
Marta
And only about 20 years into it.
Guest
I started feeling that that's good and great.
Marta
But I remember a moment I was in Tasmania on a climbing trip and I was kind of sitting there going.
Guest
This is kind of boring.
Guest
It was like, oh, there is something.
Marta
More for me other than just following, you know, climbing rocks around the world.
Guest
And that's where the, I had a therapist at the time and she, she.
Marta
Said, well, that's great.
Guest
You're finding this, you know, lull.
Marta
That means we're finally ready to take.
Guest
Up your life's purpose to help others.
Marta
On the, on their journey.
Guest
And when she said that I, I wanted to.
Marta
If I wasn't a people pleaser at the time, I would have stormed out of the room.
Guest
I was like, how dare you giving me hope that I can be of help.
Guest
And that really made me think like.
Marta
Oh, I really, really, I really desire.
Guest
To be in service.
Marta
I desire it more than anything.
Kellen
So isn't it funny that the, the reaction was how dare you say that?
Kellen
Yet it made you realize that that's what you wanted more than anything.
Kellen
Talk a little bit about that because that's a really interesting juxtaposition.
Guest
Well, when she said it, my unworthiness that I felt at the time spoke.
Marta
Up, said I, I have kept myself small for so long, I could never be big and a bright light in the world.
Guest
So that's the part that, that wanted to, you know, hide and, and you.
Marta
Know, the, the calling in me was.
Guest
So strong that the resonance of yes.
Marta
I want to serve.
Guest
And so the, the protection of, you know, from my upbringing from all this stuff.
Guest
The protection was also very strong.
Kellen
You know, that's funny because I.
Kellen
One of many, many, many transformational things I had was a three or four hour walk that I did, and I ended up with a dialogue of people on my stage, and I was sort of the narrator.
Kellen
And the people that showed up on the stage were the creative, the obsessive, and the protector.
Kellen
And I created those names just by.
Kellen
On the basis of the dialogue that was happening on the stage that I was sort of moderating.
Kellen
And there's a whole story about that, and I use it to teach something really valuable that I won't do right now.
Kellen
But it.
Kellen
I called it the Protector because it was behaving just like you talked.
Kellen
And the foundational piece is finally, after a bunch of conversation and a bunch of stuff happened, I said, what are you protecting me from?
Kellen
And the answer just shocked the daylights out of me.
Kellen
It says, well, I'm protecting you from being nothing by doing nothing.
Kellen
And I had to sit with that for like a couple of days to figure out the truth, the profundity and the depth of that because of all it meant.
Kellen
But anyway, so that's what it reminded me of.
Kellen
So then you had that awakening that said, gee, now you can find your life's mission, which you both objected to and embraced.
Kellen
What happened after that?
Guest
Yeah, I took about a year resisting it.
Guest
I actually called a friend who's a.
Marta
Life coach and said, hey, how do you do this life coaching stuff?
Marta
I need to know.
Marta
And he said, well, make an appointment and I'll.
Marta
I'll tell you all the things.
Guest
And then it took me one year to make that appointment.
Guest
So that shows that the protector was.
Kellen
Up there in the, in the, in your face.
Kellen
Right?
Guest
The predictor was definitely active.
Guest
And then this was 2018.
Marta
When I finally called him on that call with him, I was 100% in.
Guest
I was like, okay, this is my life's calling.
Marta
I am doing this.
Marta
I will never quit.
Marta
I have no idea what that's going to look like.
Guest
But I.
Guest
I don't know.
Guest
I found home.
Marta
I found myself.
Guest
The.
Guest
The feeling was so strong of resonance.
Marta
And.
Guest
But I had no idea where to.
Marta
Start, obviously, like, how do you actually do this?
Guest
Right.
Guest
One thing is that, you know, I'm gonna do this.
Guest
And then.
Guest
So I spent a few years just gathering skills for coaching skills, learning how to, how to work with people and working with them.
Marta
I had clients right away.
Guest
And then I really thought I would.
Marta
Do a lot of Nature stuff right.
Guest
Away, and then nobody was interested in that.
Marta
I was gonna take people on hikes.
Guest
And people just wanted to do zoom calls.
Guest
And I just kind of let it be what it was until maybe two years ago.
Guest
That nature thing came back and came back very strongly.
Marta
And that's when I started having clients interested in saying, hey, I want to.
Guest
Do the climbing stuff.
Guest
So I just assumed, you know, the universe works in the ways where I needed to gather my coaching skills so that I can, you know, do that well and then ramp it up because.
Marta
Things are very different, especially in high mountains.
Guest
There's many risks and things happen very quickly.
Marta
So I've been noticing that the skills.
Guest
I've gathered, I'm using them and I'm learning a lot more right now.
Marta
Yeah.
Kellen
So that's fascinating and I love it.
Kellen
You said something a little bit ago that I think is really important.
Kellen
You said in doing this or now or in this present situation.
Kellen
And it was.
Kellen
Didn't just happen now, but a while ago.
Kellen
It's more important or better or somehow a superlive better than anything else in the universe I ever did.
Kellen
Sort of the feeling that I got from that.
Kellen
I want you to talk about that because I want to go into this idea of life purpose and that sort of jazz.
Kellen
But what did you mean when you said, this is the best thing I ever did in the whole universe?
Guest
Yeah, I mean, that feeling is it.
Guest
It's like, oh, my God, it's like.
Marta
The best feeling ever.
Marta
And by the way, I had that.
Guest
Feeling when I was 15 and I.
Marta
Started climbing as well.
Guest
I was like, this is it.
Guest
This is it, right?
Guest
I'm creative, I'm open, I'm vibrant, I am curious, I am humble, I am loving all of that.
Guest
All in that that's the meaning that.
Marta
That activity brought to me.
Guest
And so, you know, I, I, I.
Guest
The way I look at it is that my desire that's aligned with universal desire, or my desire aligns with the universal desire.
Marta
And then it's not just me, it's some.
Guest
I'm creating this big funnel where something can flow through me.
Kellen
So isn't that interesting?
Kellen
We do that when those in infinite ideas and feelings come.
Kellen
We scrounge around for words.
Kellen
You know, you said, I'm creative, I'm open, I'm this, that, and the other.
Kellen
You said all this stuff and you know, the truth of that is we can't forgot what.
Kellen
What it is.
Kellen
And so we, we scrounge all these words that we have that are both superlative and extraordinary and Light and love filled and everything else.
Kellen
And, you know, those are words from a spiritual place that we just don't have language for.
Marta
Absolutely.
Kellen
So.
Kellen
So that's magnificent.
Kellen
The name of this podcast is your ultimate life.
Kellen
And the idea is, and you know, I, I live that and claim it and claim people can have it.
Kellen
You can have a life of purpose, prosperity, and joy, which includes the money that everybody worries so much about and purpose and joy by.
Kellen
And you can have it best by finding and developing this meaning and purpose.
Kellen
And again, we're using words that are the best ones that we've got in our lives.
Kellen
Talk a little bit about that, about your life and your relationship to living.
Kellen
And you can use different words than purpose, prosperity, and joy, but your version of ultimate life.
Guest
Yeah, I mean, I really never thought it was possible.
Guest
First of all, growing up in a very suppressed place with everybody that I knew lived very small lives.
Guest
And when I look at it now from the place where I am prosperous.
Marta
I'm serving the world, doing what I.
Guest
Love, and I'm making good money.
Marta
Right.
Guest
So I'm in the place where I'll go, holy.
Guest
That's what happens.
Marta
That's what I truly believe.
Guest
It happened because I took these courageous.
Marta
Difficult, and aligned choices in my life to follow when I, you know, when I was 15 and I was leaving Poland to go rock climbing and everybody.
Guest
Said, don't do it, it's dangerous.
Marta
How are you going to live?
Guest
Right?
Guest
Or when I was in my 30s and I decided to be a life.
Marta
Coach, and everybody, including my mom and.
Guest
My friends, said, how are you going.
Marta
To be a life coach?
Guest
You're going to be broke, right?
Marta
These moments will say, no, I know what I'm doing.
Marta
I have a deep resonance and I.
Guest
Am committed to it.
Guest
It, it re.
Marta
Yeah, it's a weird word.
Guest
I, I, I get to.
Marta
Align with that universal energy.
Marta
And there's no other, like, there's no place like it.
Kellen
You use three words, courageous, difficult, aligned, in describing the choices.
Kellen
You got to have it because you made these courageous, difficult, and aligned choices to allow that to flow through you and to be in alignment.
Kellen
I want to talk about that.
Kellen
And they may be the perfect words or not, it doesn't matter, but let's just use that.
Kellen
How does a person like the listeners to the podcast, they want this.
Kellen
People want to, they want to live the ultimate life.
Kellen
They want to be happy every day.
Kellen
They want to feel like they matter and mean something, and they want that to be able to turn into a good living and you make a difference in the world and all that jazz.
Kellen
So how does a person identify courageous, difficult, aligned choices?
Kellen
Well, difficult is a.
Kellen
They will be difficult, courageous and aligned choices.
Kellen
How do you identify courageous and aligned choices?
Kellen
So teach here for a minute about finding courageous and aligned choices.
Kellen
We'll talk about how to do them in a minute.
Kellen
But how do you find those choices?
Guest
It.
Guest
There's a level of listening, body listening.
Marta
There's a level of knowingness that we.
Guest
All have that for many of us has been different levels covered up or silenced, different societal constructs, different family constructs.
Guest
I call that protections.
Marta
Protections is what comes and covers it up.
Marta
The.
Guest
The one in me that said, how dare you give me hope?
Marta
That was a protection.
Guest
So if we're able to recognize our.
Marta
Protections for what they are, but listen.
Guest
From a deeper place, we.
Marta
We will.
Marta
We will have body resonance.
Guest
Or some people say, like a full body.
Guest
Yes.
Marta
Like when we fall in love.
Marta
That's a full body.
Marta
Yes.
Marta
That feeling is similar.
Marta
Similar if we let it be.
Guest
And I think we all have access to it if we don't stand in our way.
Marta
And that comes from knowing ourselves.
Marta
What are the protections?
Guest
Like you said, the critic, the judge.
Marta
What are those characters and how could.
Guest
They get in the way of us listening?
Kellen
Most people, and you know this, most people just sort of go through life reactively, doing whatever is handy in the moment.
Kellen
And they, you know, they get up and do whatever there is to do and then go to work, watch TV and do whatever there is and go to bed and do it all over again for 20 years or 50 or their whole life.
Kellen
What are the symptoms or signs in someone's when they're facing this sort of.
Kellen
What often shows up as a duality, a deeper feeling that I ought to do something.
Kellen
And then the fear of it that's coming from those protections.
Kellen
How do I become more sensitive and begin to do the deeper listening that you're referring to?
Guest
Yeah.
Guest
Of all those people, you know, I.
Marta
Haven'T met all the people that sit.
Guest
In front of the tv, but I've talked to enough and sit in front of the tv.
Guest
To me, that's a protection.
Marta
Life is difficult.
Marta
I don't know what to do with it.
Guest
I'm going to numb out and stay small.
Marta
Right.
Guest
We have all done it.
Marta
We have all done it.
Marta
I've done it.
Guest
I'm sure you have done it.
Guest
So there's no fault in that.
Guest
But anyone I've ever spoken to, even if they sit in front of the TV all day long, at some point.
Marta
In their life, they've had a desire.
Marta
They wanted to do something, they wanted.
Guest
To go and sing.
Guest
They wanted to have a business selling dog treats, whatever, right?
Guest
And they let there some sort of voice in them say, hey, don't do it, that's dangerous.
Marta
Don't do it, don't do it.
Guest
My little sister, she's 24, she, she.
Marta
Doesn'T have any money, she lives in Poland.
Marta
And she goes, I want to go.
Guest
To la, to Los Angeles to become a film producer.
Marta
And her sister, her other sister says.
Guest
Oh my God, that's gonna be so hard.
Guest
How are you gonna do it?
Guest
You don't have any money, right?
Marta
That's what happens to most of us, right?
Marta
As opposed to when she calls me.
Guest
I, I tell her, dude, it's going to be the hardest thing you'll ever do, and it's going to be the.
Marta
Most worst thing that you'll ever do.
Marta
Your life will never be the same.
Guest
So to all of us that have been in front of the tv, it's, it's having.
Marta
Listening to that voice and giving it a chance and saying, okay, I'm gonna let it, I'm gonna let it.
Guest
I'm gonna, that's what I'm saying.
Marta
Courageous, right?
Guest
It's courageous to leave, for my sister to leave her mom's house and get.
Marta
On the plane with $200 and go.
Guest
I'm gonna make it in Hollywood, right?
Kellen
Yes, yes.
Kellen
So I'm hearing is okay, everybody's felt that.
Kellen
And I, I, you know, you can hear people nodding.
Kellen
Everyone has felt that yearning, that tug and so forth.
Kellen
And everyone has felt the voices and whether they, whatever they use to say no, whether it's somebody else or something else, to push it away and put it in the background.
Kellen
So then what I'm hearing you say is the first step is stop beating it down.
Kellen
Just listen, sit with it, turn off the distractions and be with that and explore it more, listen to it more.
Kellen
Let it get louder and participate with it in your, in your heart and explore it.
Kellen
Is that, is that what you're saying.
Guest
Is the first thing to do?
Guest
And I think the, the big part.
Marta
That we might have been conditioned out.
Guest
Of is that, you know, in religions and in different societies, desire is bad.
Marta
If you want something, it's a desire, and desire is bad.
Marta
Right?
Guest
So we, so we are carrying that burden and to, to try on an.
Marta
Idea that desire is a good thing.
Marta
What if my desire and what I.
Guest
Want is a good thing?
Guest
Right?
Guest
And, and I would start in your living room and say, turn off the tv.
Marta
Turn off all of everything.
Guest
Turn off everything.
Marta
Silence your phone.
Guest
Sit there and see if there is.
Marta
Any true desire that comes up.
Marta
And maybe it is to take a bath.
Marta
Great.
Marta
Do it.
Marta
You are learning the first steps on how to listen to yourself.
Marta
Oh, my desire is.
Marta
I want to write a limerick.
Guest
Great.
Guest
Right, Right.
Guest
It's.
Marta
You are, you're learning to listen and.
Guest
You'Re learning to trust that what you're.
Marta
Doing is not evil.
Guest
It's not an evil desire that will destroy your life.
Guest
And, and I think as we learn.
Marta
To respond to the desire.
Guest
We'Re.
Guest
We get better at it and we get to do bigger and bigger things.
Kellen
So I love that.
Kellen
I try on the idea that you are inherently divine, that the desires and skills that you have are inherently valuable and inherently good.
Kellen
And that doesn't mean we don't have stupid desires.
Kellen
But try on the idea that the one, you know the difference, you might be a good one.
Kellen
You're scared of it.
Kellen
That's not the same as a bad.
Kellen
A bad.
Kellen
Okay, so use that innate intelligence to do what?
Kellen
Exactly what you said.
Kellen
Try them on, explore them.
Kellen
And I love it.
Kellen
What you said.
Kellen
Develop your ability to listen.
Kellen
Fine tune your antenna and then begin to trust and act on those.
Kellen
And that's something you can do right now, today, tomorrow, this week.
Kellen
It's not like, well, I got to work on that for two years.
Kellen
No, you'll know in a day or two.
Kellen
A week, you know, couple of weeks.
Kellen
Then the question is going to be now what do I do with this?
Kellen
It's starting to grow.
Kellen
I've given it a place to, you know, some dirt and I'm keeping it growing now and I'm watering it, you know, it's starting to grow in me and then it can become scary.
Kellen
So, you know, oh, no, I gotta do something with this.
Kellen
You'll get the hoe and pull it out right now.
Kellen
And I had a whole story about that for some other day.
Kellen
But anyway, so I love that.
Kellen
So then people get stuck with that.
Kellen
They have the idea that they're feeling that and they have at different times in their life, sometimes young, sometimes old, sometimes both.
Kellen
And then they don't go get the kind of miracle, grow fuel, food, opportunity, space, permission from themselves or circumstance.
Kellen
So what do you do then?
Kellen
Where does it, where does it become so important to go get, if you're not in a good circumstance, to go be in one, to give yourself the permission, the encouragement, examples that you need to actually pursue that thing or things that's growing?
Guest
Yeah.
Guest
I think one of the, at least.
Marta
For myself, and I see this with my clients on the mountain is one.
Guest
Of the biggest detractors, is the need.
Marta
For certainty or control.
Guest
Okay, we're going to climb this mountain.
Guest
That means we're going to be there at this time and then we're going to be down.
Guest
And so when we start opening desires.
Marta
All of the sudden we don't know.
Guest
How to have certainty, right?
Marta
You have your salary and now you start writing limericks.
Guest
You don't know how you're going to.
Marta
Make your living, right?
Guest
And so very, very often that need for certainty and control, certainty, I think, is a need.
Marta
So what we do about it is we try to control.
Marta
That's what's really in our way.
Marta
I'm so glad you're asking this, because.
Guest
I think it's such an important part.
Marta
Of this whole process is that our limited understanding in this moment of who we are cannot possibly conjure up.
Guest
Where are we going to be once we.
Marta
Step into our desire.
Marta
So there is a piece of surrendering into.
Marta
Okay, I'm going to trust that if I do this thing and let it flow through me and I'm going to act on it, because we have to act.
Guest
If we don't act, it's a great fantasy, then something new will open.
Marta
The analogy I have is everybody's traveled.
Guest
And so imagine you're going to.
Guest
Imagine you're going to, let's say, Ethiopia.
Marta
Imagine you're traveling to Ethiopia in a week.
Marta
You can imagine what Ethiopia looks like.
Marta
You can watch videos, you can read books, but you will never actually access.
Guest
The feeling for what it's like to.
Marta
Be in Ethiopia unless you're there because.
Guest
You just don't have enough information.
Guest
Right?
Marta
And so it's the same here.
Marta
Know that once you let the desire.
Guest
Flow that you will have access to a array of different things that you could have never imagined before, right?
Marta
So you can't solve for them now.
Guest
Because they're going to be so much different, right?
Kellen
I love that you can't solve for it now.
Kellen
And you actually have no idea what's going to happen next.
Kellen
And.
Kellen
And you can't have any idea what's going to happen next because the only frame of reference you have is the limited viewpoint that you've had before.
Kellen
And from that place, you can't even see.
Kellen
It's like looking through a keyhole.
Kellen
You have no idea what's going to happen when you open the door.
Kellen
And you can't have any idea no matter how many times you.
Kellen
How many different ways you try to look through the keyhole.
Kellen
So there are a thousand things we could do digging into this.
Kellen
I want to make sure that.
Kellen
And.
Kellen
And I want people to be able to find you, to learn about you.
Kellen
I didn't ask.
Kellen
Have you.
Kellen
Are.
Kellen
Are you active on social?
Kellen
Have you written a book or two or ten?
Kellen
Like, what do you do or have you done so that people can, you know, go swim in your pond?
Guest
Yeah.
Guest
Thanks for asking.
Guest
Yeah.
Guest
So my company is called Masters of Pond Badassery.
Marta
People get to come and get their.
Guest
Enroll and get their masters in badassery by climbing mountains.
Guest
If.
Marta
If you're not into climbing mountains.
Marta
I have a weekly group.
Guest
It's a.
Marta
It's a group, and it's a group coaching container that's really affordable.
Guest
And we talk about all the great.
Marta
Things, desires and control and surrender and many, many other things.
Guest
So that happens weekly, and everybody's welcome to join that container.
Kellen
Mastersofbadassery.com Is that correct?
Kellen
Cool.
Kellen
So go there.
Kellen
Like, if you don't need.
Kellen
If you don't do anything except go there and look at it and see.
Kellen
Because who doesn't want to be a master of badassery?
Kellen
And if you can't tell from listening to Marta talk here that she's a master of badassery, in fact, PhD, obviously, then.
Kellen
Then you're not paying attention.
Kellen
So as we get done here, I need you to tell me what.
Kellen
What did we not do?
Kellen
Well, there's a million things.
Kellen
We can only do this much in 30 minutes, but what did we not talk about that was just like trying to fall out of your mouth and off your lips?
Marta
Yeah.
Guest
I would like to share my big mission that I have in my life.
Guest
I.
Marta
When I was a young climber, I.
Guest
Was in Yosemite Valley.
Guest
I was inspired by just the nature and the beauty and the fact that.
Marta
Governments created such thing as national parks to protect these places.
Guest
And so the story behind it is.
Marta
That a humble shepherd named John Muir.
Guest
Invited Theodore Roosevelt to come and spend.
Marta
A few days with him in the.
Guest
Wilderness so that he can develop intimacy.
Marta
And reverence for nature.
Marta
And so Roosevelt came, spent some days.
Guest
With some shepherd guy in the woods.
Guest
And now United States has all these national parks thanks to that.
Guest
And so my big mission is to bring that intimacy and reverence for nature to people that make legislation and have power in protecting nature.
Guest
So any.
Guest
Anyone out there who is interested and.
Marta
Can make some big decisions, come over.
Guest
And I'll take you for some hikes and we'll start having a conversation about it.
Kellen
Fabulous.
Kellen
Well, that's one of the most important ways you're adding good to the world.
Kellen
So I'm glad I asked that.
Kellen
So what else didn't we talk about that's exploding from your heart?
Marta
I have a story I wanted to share.
Guest
Do we have time?
Guest
Yeah, I.
Guest
I wanted to.
Guest
For those who are sitting on the.
Marta
Couch and they have a desire to.
Guest
Do something and they're very uncertain on.
Marta
How to start, I actually wanted to.
Guest
Share a story from my life that.
Marta
Has been very impactful.
Marta
So when I first came to United.
Guest
States, I was 18, completely broke, and I was gonna go and climb this big mountain.
Guest
And I didn't have enough money for boss or anything, and so I was hitchhiking everywhere, and one day I get picked up, picked up by this guy, and he's asking me what I'm doing.
Guest
I'm telling him my big mission.
Marta
I'm here from Poland.
Marta
I'm gonna climb El Capitan.
Marta
And he takes me to work.
Marta
He actually goes out of his way to take me to work, and he.
Marta
I'm about to leave the car, and.
Guest
He goes, you know what?
Marta
You have really cool dreams.
Marta
And he hands me a wad of.
Guest
Cash, and I just take it and run and say thank you.
Guest
And so this man gave me.
Guest
18 year old, gave me $4,000 from a hitchhiking ride.
Guest
And the $4,000 that he gave me took me for a whole year to South America.
Marta
I climbed many, many, many more mountains.
Guest
Than the one I wanted to climb.
Guest
And he.
Marta
He literally changed my life.
Guest
Now, could I have known this when.
Marta
I was leaving Poland that some dude.
Guest
In the car is going to give me?
Guest
Right.
Marta
Not at all possible.
Guest
So, you know, this was this huge foundational story that.
Marta
That allowed me to trust in the.
Guest
Universe, having my back, and showed me.
Marta
That the power of my vision, even as an 18 year old, was compelling.
Guest
For someone to want to help.
Guest
And so now we have this thing.
Guest
I have this wealthy person who I know who heard this story and heard about my sister and decided, oh, I want to continue this tradition and donated $4,000 to my sister's, you know, college fund.
Guest
And so this is just something that.
Marta
I want to keep on going.
Guest
And if I find someone with really.
Marta
Cool dreams, give me a call.
Guest
And I have $4,000 here waiting for you.
Kellen
Well, see, I'm glad I asked.
Kellen
So you ask again.
Kellen
Is there anything else that's exploding from your heart that we need to put on here at the end?
Guest
Oh, I think no.
Guest
I think that feels complete.
Kellen
Marta, I want to thank you for being on our show today, I am delighted to be in your presence and to hear your passion, your story, your intention, your focus.
Kellen
And again, substituting available words for a feeling we can't describe.
Kellen
Thank you for who you're being and how you're showing up in the world.
Marta
Thank you for this beautiful conversation and.
Guest
Yeah, pulling out these stories, that's great.
Kellen
So, folks, I want you to listen to this a couple of times because, you know, you hear things, rags to riches and impossible stuff happen.
Kellen
And there's a couple of examples, several in her life.
Kellen
And I'm sure that she creates with that kind of energy that for her folks, clients and others that she's with.
Kellen
So I have tons of stories, but you've heard all those on other episodes.
Kellen
What I can tell you for sure is that this extraordinary possibility is available for you.
Kellen
And if you want to follow your intuition, fine tune it.
Kellen
Learn to do it.
Kellen
You can go forward, follow those dreams and create your ultimate life.
Kellen
Never ask why.
Kellen
Open your heart.
Kellen
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