Rise to the Prize: Unleashing Your Potential and Achieving Your Dreams, ep 899

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background and again, I hope you're watching the video. I say

that every time, but I really mean it, because I picked the

backgrounds to be valuable. This background is a picture of a

karate or jujitsu or other martial art kung fu dojo. Dojo

depends on what style you practice and all that sort of

thing. But it's a place of work, and you can see this symbol on

the wall. You can see the hardwood floor. Can see the

heavy bags hanging and I love that. Today's episode is about,

right? It's called Rise to the prize. Rise to the prize, right?

And there's so many things that have happened this summer. I'm

recording this in the summer of 24 I don't know when you're

going to listen to it, but there's so many things that have

happened this summer that illustrate this point of rising

up, of making choices that get you to the place you want to be.

And hey, so what are you doing this summer? I have a question.

Let's start there. What are you doing this summer? So right

after we record this next week, we're going to spend a week, a

little more week and a half or so, over on Vancouver Island.

Now I live in Edmonton, Alberta, which is, you know, the frozen

north. There's seven or eight, several 100 miles north of

Montana. And I measured it once when we lived in Phoenix. It's

1800 miles due north of Phoenix. I used to joke, if you drew a

line between Phoenix and Santa Claus, you go through my front

yard. We moved up here in 2016 so eight years ago, as I record

this to take take care of my wife's mother, who was, is 92 be

93 in September. She was eight years ago, 84 or 85 then, and

was still living by herself and getting along okay, but, you

know, needing to have a lot of help getting the doctor's

appointments and those kinds of things. And Joy's brother lives

up here, but he didn't really want to participate in that. So

we moved up here to do that because, you know, I our our

view is, you don't put your parents in old folks homes, or

you don't put them somewhere unless it's so bad you have no

choice. In other words, you don't have the chops or the

facilities to take care of them. And most, most folks, as they

get older, aren't that bad. They could be taken care of anyway.

That's just my personal view. My own mother is almost the same

age. She's 90. Oh, let's see she'll be 90. No, that's not

true. 91 391. In September, enjoys mom b, 93 so there's a

couple of years difference. But anyway, there's my sister. My

older sister is living with her mother, my mother, as she ages

and needs a lot of care, etc, etc. So to me, that's just what

you do, and you can agree or disagree. It doesn't matter, but

that's why we moved up here. Anyway. I spent a lot of years

in karate, karate, right Tang, sudo and shooty Tay, which is

Okinawan, old style, and different styles, different

places, and spent a lot of time there, and I learned a lot of

respect, a lot of hard work. I did a lot of things that I never

thought I could do in the process. And I did some

competition, and not a ton, but I did some competition and

actually won a couple things in the years that I did it. What I

learned most from that is the work and the discipline and the

focus that it takes to achieve those things. Now, just like

everything, there's hard schools and there's easy schools.

There's in academics, there's hard schools and there's easy

schools. In any school, there's hard teachers and easy teachers.

Funny, when I was in university and I was a mathematics major, I

had a math scholarship. I took a class the university had about

25,000 you know, mid, mid, large university, about 25,000

students. And in that population of 25 there was only one one

section offered of this particular math class. And in

that math class are only 25 students, so only one in 1000

students takes, you know, this kind of advanced mathematics.

And it was, it was very difficult. It was a very

challenging class, and the teacher was very challenging.

And the reason I mentioned that as an example is because it was

funny. Think about your own college or post grad days where,

you know, we asked him, you know, does the final is it going

to take all three hours? And he looked at us and said, at least.

I. A lot, and we're like, oh, man, heart sank, you know, that

kind of thing. And it was a really tough class. And I

studied, and I did okay. I ended up with a B plus in that class,

and there was no A's, it was one other B plus, and the rest of

the 23 went down from there. So he was a tough class, tough

grader. And everything my point in saying that is just, it's

another example of making a choice about rising to the

prize. I wanted to do good, so I put in extra time and extra

effort. When I did martial arts, I was, you know, a bit of a

fanatic. I put in extra time, extra effort. I worked out at

home a lot, some not always, but sometimes every day, and

sometimes twice a day. Uh, many times twice a day. If you count

the days I went to the dojo, and there were a lot of days. There

were a lot of those too. So that's the reason I put this up.

Rise to the prize. Now I mentioned this summer we're

we're going to Vancouver Island, we're eventually going to move

there. We've been going to do it the last two or three summers,

and it hasn't worked out the last this summer, and last

summer, it's not working because our Ukrainian family, the mom,

is in the middle of applying for a permanent resident card and

changing, changing where she lives is not, you know, doesn't

help with that, and there was no crush for us to go, except we

weren't dying to spend another freezing cold winter here, but

we're going to. And so here we are, but we love the week 10

days, or 11 days or something that we're going to spend over

there. This summer has been the summer of performance, the

summer of amazing things. Wimbledon was this summer, and

we watched a bit of this and that, and a youngster beat

Djokovic. Djokovic, sorry, Djokovic again. Beat him last

year. And you know, Djokovic is in his late 30s, and so he's on

his way out, and this new guy, Alcaraz, is on his way up. And,

you know, will cherish this second victory over over

Djokovic. There was also the Copa Cup, which is the North,

South American, Central American, you know, the Americas

Cup. I think it happens every two years. And not surprisingly,

Argentina won that. Messi is the, I think, the best player in

the world right now, at the same time overlapping, there was the

Euro Cup and that I was interesting, and Spain was

victorious there. And you know what's funny, I never paid

attention to soccer much, and about my wife and as a fanatic

and really follows it. So in our marriage, now almost 17 years,

I've become not only acclimated, but interested, and I know some

of the players and can follow it. And the other thing that's

happened is hockey. She's gotten me interested in hockey. I

didn't even know what I mean. I knew kind of what it was, but

didn't know anything about playing. In the first games I

watched of hockey, I could not follow the puck. You know, it

was Things were moving too fast, and I didn't know what was going

where now, of course, I can and enjoyed it this last year. It

ended in June, Edmonton, our city, got to the finals. Who

Edmonton Oilers got to the finals and lost in seven games.

It was quite a quite a ride, that final series. On top of

that, there's the yearly version of the Tour de France, and that

happened this summer. And I don't know who took the yellow

jersey there. We used to watch that off and on pretty

religiously, but then they changed how it was available.

So, you know, I couldn't find it. She couldn't find it. Wasn't

worth subscribing to a set of new this, that, and the other,

besides that, all the rest of that stuff that was going on.

And then we're capping it off with the Olympics. The Olympics

are haven't started yet, as I record this, but by the time you

see it, they will be done. And the Olympics is the place where

people literally rise to the prize. They put effort and

energy. And one of the things I like about the Olympics, and

more than the events themselves, is the stories about the people

and Olympics, the movie Cool Runnings, about the Jamaican

bobsled team that took place in the 88 Olympics in Winter

Olympics in Calgary, Alberta. Well, Calgary is just three

hours south of here, and that big tower that they have, and

you know, the Olympic Park is still there and runs in the

winter time. And you know, people use it for skiing and

stuff. It's not a particularly difficult mountain. And we're

Calgary is close to Banff and some of the most beautiful ski

resorts in the world are, you know, Lake Louise and sunshine

and Mount Doom. It's called Mount Norway, but I always call

it Mount Doom. Seems like every year somebody dies on the front

run on that called Lone Pine. Anyway, it doesn't matter. The

point is, all of these things are happening where people have

made. Decision in their lives to rise to the prize. They've made

a decision to do the work that it takes. They made a decision

that no matter what is in the way, and like I said, the

Olympics, I love them because it's it's a treat to hear about

the stories. There was one Olympics where, you know, they

told the story of a, I think it was a skeleton race, which is

crazy, right? You lay face forward on a very low sled, and,

you know, it is all just one person on a very low sled, on an

icy run, like a bobsled kind of thing. And man speeds are

incredible. Accidents are deadly anyway. So one year, a few years

ago, I don't know if it was the last winter Olympics, it might

have been in 2000 what would that have been 2020 but anyway,

about a lady who, you know, told her effort, and she'd been to

the Olympics before, and this was going to be her last one,

and she had kids, and told about the story of her family and her

husband supporting her and getting up at Oh Dark 30, you

know, to to practice and practice and practice. And this

time that Olympics, she won the silver medal. So she did place,

placed on the podium, fulfilled a lifelong dream, couldn't quite

get the gold, but still, a silver medalist in the Olympics,

in any sport is awe inspiring forever, right? So I want to ask

you, and I ask myself this all the time. Kellan, do you rise to

the prize? We've got examples all around us, and I just listed

a whole bunch of sporting events. But you know, sports

isn't the only thing I notice. Tell us is a telephone company

up here. No kidding. Tell us, telephone right? One of the big

ones. And they have, they sponsor all kinds of creative

stuff, filmmaking things and indigenous, which is native, you

know, filmmaking classes and courses and competitions. And

they give some pretty significant money, 10,000 25,000

I even think I saw something that was $200,000 I don't know,

but at least I know for sure I saw 25 and a 10 and more than

one of them to different groups of people to encourage their

creativity, to do what, to rise to the prize, to get the

obstacles out of the way of doing what you want to do in

Your heart. So where do you want to be now all the sporting

examples are done. I gave those film examples which are telling

local stories, stories of local people, the Alberta stories,

Edmonton stories about different people and topics. And the field

was wide open. One of the interesting things that takes

place in Edmonton every August is the Fringe Festival. Now, I

didn't know what a Fringe Festival was 10 years ago, just

I don't know why. I just didn't there's the largest Fringe

Festival in the world is in Edinburgh, Scotland. The second

largest Fringe Festival in the world is here in Edmonton,

Alberta, like, Who would have thought? And for a week or 10

days, there are drama productions, you know, there are

plays, there are stand up, there's performers of all kinds,

there's musicians, and they call it a Fringe Festival, because

it's, you know, it's out there stuff, right? You know what I

love about that, the courage and commitment. Those are two

completely different things. Courage is the ability, the

willingness to do something in the face of difficulty or fear.

One definition, I understand, there's many, but in the face of

difficulty or fear, when it would seem easy or not, to etc,

etc, choosing to do something because you believe it's right.

That's real courage, and that's one thing that it takes to get

up and submit yourself to an audience. Number one, you don't

know how many people are going to come to your audience.

There's venues in that Fringe Festival all over the place,

around white Ave. White Ave is kind of the hip place in

Edmonton. It's a few miles long, and it's lined with, you know,

cafes and that kind of stuff, eclectic shops. And you can buy

stuff there. You can't buy other places, things like fluvog

shoes. I don't know if you've ever heard of that, but John

fluvag, he makes weird shoes. Okay? He has a shop on there, or

he did. I bought a couple pairs of shoes there. Why? Because I

do that anyway. Along that of North and South, all over

there's all these venues where people come to perform, to play

their trade, their music, or their drama or their poetry. Day

or whatever. And there's all kinds of them. It goes on for

about 10 days, and you can get tickets to all these and see all

kinds of crazy stuff. Here's the interesting thing, the courage

that it takes to do that is the same courage for you or for me,

to rise to the prize, the commitment is separate, which

is, how bad do I want to do a good job? How bad do I want to

do it? Well, I carry a piece of paper in my wallet, and it

simply has the words, how bad written on it, and it is there

to remind me at any time I pull it out, how bad do I want

something? I've made lots of goals, as I'm sure you have.

Where do you want to be? What is your Olympics, last event, or

last episode, I talked about, what is your Olympic event? And

this is really talking about the courage and commitment it takes

to get there, and this is your encouragement. I spend a lot of

my life living someone else's life, someone else's script,

someone else's direction, trying to prove myself. And I'm sure

you know the drill. Maybe you've done some of that, or a lot,

being a people pleaser, trying to prove something, get stamps

on your forehead of approved. It's one thing to get done with

that, to declare your independence and say, I'm going

to live my own life. It's quite another thing to then say, Okay,

what is that life? What is that life about and that doesn't come

easy. It's hard to figure out what you want your life to be

about, especially if you've lived a long time doing what

you're supposed to do or following just the norms. Now

I'm not saying there's anything wrong with the norm, whatever

that is. You know, grow up, get an education, get a job, maybe

have a family, you know, make a lot of money, do whatever,

that's fine. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with

that. But you know what I know? I know that most people are

unhappy with that surveys indicate anywhere between 7070,

sorry, and 85 people. 85% of people are unhappy in their

jobs, and the reasons most often given are it's not fulfilling.

Interestingly enough, it's not I don't get paid enough. It's not

that. Most common reason is I'm not happy now I was that I

worked for 30 years in a career. Doesn't matter what it was I

did. Well, I raised to got, you know, got up to executive

positions and made good money, but I was not happy my life, my

personal life, is a wreck. And I did a lot of things that, you

know, I've had to fix and, you know, go to rehab and do a bunch

of stuff for so what at any given moment today, you can

decide I'm going to forge the path where my heart is calling.

You can decide that. You can decide it today. Now, often

people make a bunch of excuses. I have kids, I have obligations,

I have family, I don't have time. Nonsense. I call bullshit

on all of it. All that means is, if you have a set of commitments

that you've already made, and you're going to keep them now,

some people walk away from them. And I'm not saying go do that.

What I am saying is, if you're going to keep them, you can also

create time and energy and a ramp and a path to get to your

prize. What is your prize after I left that 30 year career in

2007 which has now been 17 years. I've spent these 17 years

figuring out what my prize was after I had all the work and

help for the first three or four years to clean up my own act.

You know, that was necessary for me to even decide what the prize

was. So maybe you need some help. Maybe you need a lot of

work to clean up. I don't know what even that means, but to

make repairs, to clean up your act. You know, crap from the

past, I had a pile of that, and I made it bigger by carrying

around guilt, shame and all the rest of the nonsense. And so it

was really slow going for a while, but after a few years, I

was able to do that. Then I could really focus on Okay, now

that I have cleaned that up the best I can. And interestingly

enough, you don't need anyone's permission to clean it up, you

do the best you can with what you know and what you have to

clean it up if you need to. I'm not even saying you need to, but

I sure did. Okay, so what? Then it's not just about that. It's

about making your own choices. If you weren't happy. What? Make

you happy. I wrestled with that. I didn't know. I just didn't

know because my mind and thoughts were so full of what I

was supposed to do and all the contamination. So I finally,

finally, but I wouldn't give up. Now that's one of my

characteristics, is I never quit, never, never, never,

never, never. I go slow, I fall on my face, I get sidetracked

all kinds of stuff, but I don't quit. So I kept moving along,

sometimes slow, sometimes fast, and I finally realized that the

story of my life, it's pain, it's destructions, it's

creations, the recovery, the growth. That story was a

powerful story. It became my mission, then to share the

things I learned in that journey or on that journey with others

that might benefit so as I made my own growth path with all the

help I needed, counselors and coaches and all kinds of stuff,

I realized, wow, this journey should be documented and shared.

So that's what I've done. That's why I've written 20 books. I'm

on my 20th, 19 books, with number 20 underway, and created

this podcast and La talk radio and all the rest. So my question

to you is, what is your prize? Where do you want to go? Now I

have a method, a system called the triple helix, to help people

find it, to examine your skills, that you have, what you've been

selling in the marketplace, the jobs you've had, the work you've

done. What are your natural gifts? What has your life

experience taught you often the most painful and difficult

things, but when you look at it for tools and learnings and

power, you'll find them, I promise. So in the process, I

take people through to get that you can find your most effective

offering, your most effective passion, the thing you want to

do, it calls you, it draws you, it yanks on you. But even though

you feel that, you have to choose it. Okay, I know I feel

it. I know I feel it. I'm scared. I don't know. I don't

know how blah, blah, blah, blah. I don't care if I don't know

anything. I'm choosing it. That's the thing. Courage and

commitment to rise to the prize. So what I decided in that

initial growth process of three or four years is I wanted to be

of service. I didn't want to get another job and create another

career, except I wanted to be in the people encouragement

business. I wanted to be a beacon of light, a vessel of

love, a conduit of power, a champion of hope. I have a

client who calls herself a hope dealer. I love it. I wanted to

do that. I yearned. I ached, because as I saw the changes

that happened to me, I thought, I know I can help people with

that are struggling like I was, doesn't have to be with the same

things, but the same feelings of worthlessness, of powerlessness,

of, you know, people pleasing. I'll never get there. I'm living

some other script you can dump that. That's what your ultimate

life's all about. If you haven't been to www, dot, your Ultimate

life.ca. Go right now. Www, dot, your Ultimate life.ca. There's

stuff there that costs no money. Five master keys to creating

your ultimate life. People say ultimate all the time these

days, which is like, Yeah, whatever, some other stupid

buzzword. But the truth is, I have walked that road. I now

live a life of purpose, prosperity and joy, coming from

a place of everything, 100% the opposite. I've helped many

people do the same. My mission this year is to help 250 million

people. Wow. What a number, right? Realize who they really

are, who you really are, a Divine Being with infinite

capability that no matter where you've been or what's come

before, it's never too late to matter greatly and have big

impact if you want to do that now, if you don't want to do

that, this is the wrong show for you, because my show, my

encouragement is for people who say, I've had enough of the old

I know where those road goes, where those excuses go. I know

it. I hate it. I'm done. Here's how you rise to the prize. You

have to decide you're going. Someone doesn't casually say,

Yeah, I'm gonna, I think maybe I'll try to go to the Olympics.

They pick a year, they pick a program or a sport, and they go

to work. Nobody accidentally fell up a mountain. Nobody

actually accidentally won Wimbledon. They picked a thing

and went after it. So if you want to. Rise to the prize. You

got to figure out what is your prize? I am honestly not amazed

anymore, but in the first years of my coaching work, I was

completely amazed at the number of people that couldn't answer

this question, what do you want? Like, what do you really want?

First answers, money. Freedom, fine. Assume you have all the

money you need. No one has any call on one minute of your time.

Who are you? Because vacationing and sitting on the beach and

doing nothing forever gets boring fast. I can tell you that

it's boring and it doesn't fulfill you any more than a job

you hate, or a relationship where you're being taken

advantage of, or something like that, those are damaging. So is

doing nothing that isn't fulfilling? It might seem like

it right now, and it's hectic and you got too much to do and

you're going, I can promise you it's not fulfilling. So when you

get past all that. What do you want when I get with people and

I'd love to talk to you. So this is an invitation. This is an

invitation. I'm inviting you to connect with me so we can have a

conversation about your ultimate life, about your most effective

offering, your triple helix, the thing you are passionate about

that you want to do in the world. Love to do that with

you've never been able to, I've never, not found that people

say, Oh, I don't know what I want to do. And never is never

happens if we do the work together anyway. So where do you

want to be when people talk about you can say, Oh yeah,

she's the gal that what I know, what I want people to say. He's

the guy that is always encouraging. He can help me do

anything. He always listens. He has power to help me lift my

eyes, my sight, my heart, and go at it again so I get where I'm

going. That's, you know, that kind of language I want that to

be spoken in the dark when I'm not there. Because it's true.

What do you want the truth of your soul to be Now, when you

think about that, and I challenge you to take the time

to do that, why are you not there right now? Like, why is

that not already true? And I don't mean someone saying, Well,

you know, they're a nice person, nice guy, nice gal. That awesome

thing you want etched on the memory of your life on your

tombstone or something I don't know, that really defined you.

How come you're not doing that right now? What's in the way

keeping you from being, having, exploring, expressing that fully

as an artist or an author or a business owner or an

entrepreneur or a parent or a visionary? If you are not right

this minute, living to your fullest extent all the love and

passion you can enjoy, you can have every single day, I want to

know why not. And more importantly than me knowing you

need to know why not. Because until we know why we're not

doing it right now. It's hard to change things

now, after you decide, well, I'm not there because and the list

may be long and often our list points outward, but none of

those things matter. Nothing outside of you matters. What

people think of you as, none of your business. The barriers and

obstacles outside of you are none of your they're not none of

your business, but you can't control them. Okay? You can get

out of situations and so forth. But those aren't the big

barriers. The big barriers are the ones inside. What you think

about yourself, what you believe about yourself, what you

perceive about your opportunity. I'm too late. It's it's too

late. I'm too old. It's to whatever. I don't have enough

money. I can't I don't know how all that stuff is, the real

barriers, the stuff that you believe about you that's

different than your divine nature with infinite

possibility. And I use infinite carefully. I don't use it just

to say some big word you really do. You're created by God, so

you have infinite capability. And I had to ask myself that a

lot, why am I not using it? Why am I not doing this? And that

was the starting place for growth. So when you think about

where you really want to be, who you really want to be, how you

want to show up in life every day, and what you want to be

true about your life, exact details, then the question, the

final question to take is, what does it take for you to rise up

and grow now? Nobody falls up a mountain. You walk up one step

at a time, so jumping from where you are to complete in one go

isn't going to happen. It's. Growth doesn't happen that way.

Muscles aren't built that way. Fortunes aren't built that way.

Brands aren't built that way. It takes a step at a time, and

today is a good day to start go to the mirror, look in the

mirror, in your own eyes, deeply, and say, I love you. I

love you for even thinking about this, and then start trying on

things I am, what I'm the very best, what like? What lights you

up? If you have trouble with that, again, I invite you to

reach out. Here's what I know from my journey of the last 17

years, the first three or four, I had a lot of work to do to

clean stuff up. The last 13, I have been pursuing diligently

that journey, and I have answered the questions, and

today I live the ultimate life purpose, prosperity and joy and

so coming from death and getting to where I am like I know the

road, and I know all the excuses I used to use and the people and

things I used to blame, and you're free to continue to do

that, or you're free to change it right now, One declaration,

one decision, one tiny step at a time. Look up your mountain.

Take one step. What would be one step closer to that dream you

have? Why not take it today. My mission is to help two 50

million people, and that includes you. I'd love to talk

to you. I'd love to help you, because the view from the top is

glorious, beyond description, and you deserve to have

everything you dream and to be living your ultimate life. Open

your heart this time

around. Around. Thank you for listening to

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